Men's Groups

the invitation

The Invitation (Oriah Mountain Dreamer)


It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, ‘Yes.’

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.



Kenny’s men’s groups provide a rare gift: a space where we can speak, listen and share, free from the need to posture, compare and compete. What a shame we have to come to Kenny’s sessions to allow ourselves permission to do something so simple and yet so brave!

JM, 52

Civil Servant

I have found a space where I can be with men who want to learn about themselves with other men. The high level of sharing, acceptance, trust and value of diversity I have experienced in every group makes it a safe place to be. I recon Kenny plays a huge part in allowing this to happen as he easily and often moves between humour, compassion, wise insights and useful information.

TB, 51


Great experience, so much depth. Definitely recommended! Thanks Kenny for creating this space.

RM, 26

Project Manager

As a guy with troubled relationships with both women (thanks mum!) and men (thanks dad!), difficulty understanding how the world works and just trying to put all the pieces together, Kenny is a Godsend and a genuinely decent, helpful and caring guy… its just so rare to come across someone like him. If you want help understanding what the hell’s going on, what went wrong, and how you can start to put it right, then reach out to him. He has a lot to offer and has already started to help me transform my life.

SJ, 49



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